I realize I didn’t post anything last night. I’m not entirely sure why. I was just being lazy, I suppose, and doing homework.
Well, here’s a quote to start the day (from thoughtful-mind, as always). I think it’s a good one. It certainly resonates with me.
“To conceal anything from those to whom I am attached, is not in my nature. I can never close my lips where I have opened my heart.”
― Charles Dickens
To be called a friend is the highest honour anyone can be granted.
Sometimes when I’m not in the best place, I think about things that make me smile. It helps sometimes. The moon tonight was an amazing crescent. Absolutely stunning.
Here’s something to make you smile tonight. Well, I hope that it makes you smile tonight.
One is the loneliest number.
When you feel like nothing,
They visit and stay
And what can you do
Except for deal with them
However you can.
You feel insufficient.
Fragments floating along
Never ever enough
No matter what.
The seasons come and go
They change with time
The world does too.
Like you’re always haunted
Always covered by
The cloak of nothing.
Today I have a quote. I know that I haven’t had time to post in the last two days and this isn’t really substantial…
“Running away from any problem only increases the distance from the solution. The easiest way to escape from the problem is to solve it.”
The “stress culture.” It’s become a massive part of today’s society, hasn’t it? At least, on my college’s campus? (The answer to that is yes.)
Everyone is competing. Competing for jobs. Competing for the best grades. Competing to get into med school or grad school or whatever school they may want to attend next. It’s a normal thing to hear people talking about how little sleep they got or how much they have going on. People compare how many hours they spend on a given class. They stay up all night studying or doing work. They stress and stress and stress. All that really comes from that is more stress.
It’s a stressful place.
It’s a toxic environment.
There are many who can attest to that.
No one is immune to it. I certainly am not. Academic stress exists in my life, though not nearly as much as in other people’s lives. I think that grades are not truly accurate representations of what what you know and whether or not you can apply that outside of the classroom setting. I do my best to not worry about grades so much as learning. Even so, it’s hard to not stress sometimes.
Stress seems to come from fear of the uncertainty of the future. That and the desire to be on top, to be better than everyone else. But is it worth it? In the end, what do you have to show for all of your work? Only grades and prematurely grey hair. The more important question lies in the use of what you’ve learned.
Is what you actually know and remember worth the stress? Is it worth the toxic environment? If it is, then you’re probably pretty well off. If it’s not, then I invite you to join me in destressing activities such as baking and playing games and making fun of 90s television in the form of the Power Rangers.
Because in my eyes, the toxic environment isn’t worth the toll that it takes on me mentally. I’d rather not repeat last semester, and if that means not doing as well as I was before, I accept that. Being in a better place is worth so much more than a letter in class.
When I was a young foolish innocent little girl, I used to think I was special. I had an imagination that would come alive. I always got straight As in school. I understood things and people so well. I felt special.
It’s been a long time, though, and a lot has changed. This isn’t some kind of I-want-pity-and-compliments post. This is the self-loathing that I keep bottled up. Sometimes it gets to the point where I NEED to let it out.
I know that I’m not a special person. I don’t get straight As in college. I blend in with the crowd. My imagination still makes things come alive, but it’s rare for those things to be shared with others. I feel incredibly mundane. There’s nothing that sets me apart from others. I feel like a robot sometimes. Sure, I try to avoid conforming to society’s expectations, but even that isn’t enough sometimes. Without something that makes me special, I am just another person. And…I suppose I really don’t like that. I want to be more than just another person.
When I think about the future, it’s hard to see myself moving on after college. I want to go to graduate school and do research; I want to do something useful that will help others. When I think about the future, though, I can’t see myself achieving things because there’s nothing special about me.
It’s a sad thought. I haven’t even checked my midsemester grades because I don’t want to do something stupid out of despair. I probably won’t check them, to be honest. This semester is worse than last (academically). I wonder what the future holds for me.